The Value of Silence

“I have often regretted my speech, never my silence.” Publilius

When I was in my 20’s, I had a very tough time socializing. I was self-conscious and talked way too much. A very dear friend of mine taught me an invaluable lesson that has stood the test of time for all the decades since.
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YNAB Interview

A few months ago, Jesse Mecham, founder of YNAB, asked if I would do an interview to give his listeners an understanding of how debting can be an addiction, from a compulsive debtor’s perspective, and to share my experience, strength, and hope about how Debtor’s Anonymous can help. Further, I wanted to explain how the YNAB software is a great tool for compulsive debtors to use to maintain their spending plan and track their numbers. (If you read this blog, then you know that I believe YNAB has been instrumental in my DA recovery.)
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Clarifying Abstinence

Though I’ve already written extensively about abstinence in DA, I still feel some additional clarification is needed because I continue to find people confused about this issue. Sometimes, we need to hear an idea multiple times in slightly different ways to have it sink in.
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It’s Specific, Not Different

As stated in the Debtor’s Anonymous Preamble: “The only requirement for membership in Debtors Anonymous is a desire to stop incurring unsecured debt.

The DA program gives us suggestions for ways to do so, including:
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Pressure Relief Group (PRG) – Part 2

Today’s post is a continuation of yesterday’s on PRG’s.

What to Give to Your PRG Team

When you are new or beginning to create your spending plan, you will want to either email or bring a list of categories and how much you spend in them. If you are new to program, please don’t let this overwhelm you. This is why you are getting help … because you cannot do this alone. Take a look at this post on categories of a spending plan and some information on how to track your spending. Plus, DA has pamphlets on spending plans and categories to help you.
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Pressure Relief Group (PRG) – Part 1

Debtors Anonymous has a great pamphlet explaining what a PRG is. Here is the synopsis of their pamphlet:

Pressure Relief Groups and Pressure Relief Meetings
Explains how these unique, powerful tools help remove the pressure from you and encourage you to live an abundant life. Includes how to set up a pressure relief group, what happens at them, and what joy you may experience as you recover from compulsive debting.

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Giving Service at Meetings

Yesterday, I wrote about service burnout. In that post, I mentioned how one can give service at a meeting, thereby fulfilling two program requirements in one.
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Why 3 Slips & You are Dropped?

It is suggested to sponsors working the DA program using the H.O.W. format that if a sponsee slips three times, the sponsor drops the sponsee. A slip, as I understand it, would be:
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Calling Your Sponsor on Time

I wanted to write about this because it is something I feel strongly about. This topic may seem petty to a newcomer, but I am hoping to clarify why this is such an important part of recovery.
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